Kids.My children are grounded for 1 month. No TV, no computer, no Ipod, no outing, no whatever. Except books. That, they can read anytime they want.
Why?
They take things a little bit to easy and for granted. They didnt do their daily chores. Kemas katil, helping their mother in the kitchen, bilik bersepah, all the everyday daily chores stuff. My love one and me really had it with them this time. Penat cakap. Penat marah.
I know it may sounds a bit strange, coming from me, but I believe in discipline. Of course, those who knows me might kutuk, "Eleh, hang pun tak berdisiplin gak masa sekolah". Which is true, but at least growing up in a boarding school did teach me something about life. Punishment beckons if we did not follow the school rules.
The children were of course devastated at first since the privileges of all the things they love to do were taken away from them. But I gave them a choice. They have to earn back those privileges. If they do whatever that was expected from them, I will consider lessening their punishment duration. But they have to proof that they can do all this without me or my love one telling them.
Its been 2 weeks.They no longer complain they are bored. They read a lot more. The eldest started to act more responsible and always reminding her sisters to do their chores. My second daughter finished the whole Enid Blyton Secret Seven and Famous Five series. The youngest one can now read on her own without any help. Out of boredom, they became creative and created games on their own to play to pass the time. My love one and I spent a whole lot more time with them without the distraction and captivating lure of television and the online Internet gaming world.
And now, they dont need both me and my love one breathing down their neck, harassing them to do their responsibilities.
I might even extend this long time grounded thing a little bit more, since its been working very well.
And now, they dont need both me and my love one breathing down their neck, harassing them to do their responsibilities.
I might even extend this long time grounded thing a little bit more, since its been working very well.
Hmm.. good for you.. Anyways, no size fits all for parenting.. kids behaviours tend to differ from one family to another.. one need to adjust based on the prevailing circumstances... You r one of the lucky ones that have found the One Ring.. :)
ReplyDeleteTime Traveller : "One Ring to rule them all"
ReplyDeleteHehehe. I agree with you, Its not the case of one size fits all. The best we can do is to hope that our own style of parenting would be enough to mold our children into a good person. Of course a person style of parenting should not be taken as the thing that works best and should be applied by every parents. But we can always share and compare our experiences and work out the best way on how to do this.